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You could say that this is the reason you would prefer that her LDS boyfriend not be present at this meeting.Let her know that your hope is that this meeting would be a time for honest communication, where you and she can discuss the implications of her choices in an atmosphere of mutual respect.Once you’ve established the common ground of what God has to say about a Christian dating and marrying an unbeliever, and she has agreed with the fact that she should not put her LDS boyfriend in front of her relationship with God, you need to be prepared for a couple of common objections she may raise.OBJECTION #1: YOUR DAUGHTER IS MISSIONARY DATING: Your daughter may say something like, “I know he doesn’t believe exactly like we do, but he’s open to discussing religion and I’m trying to help him see the truth of my faith.” A few questions in response may help her put this idea in proper perspective.A young adult approached with an authoritative parental attitude, may react with defiant rejection of all parental input (common in strong-willed children) or resentful compliance in which your daughter may give lip-service to your desires, without heart commitment.Neither response yields the desired affect that would bring a child to maturity in her decision making capacity.OBJECTION #2: YOUR DAUGHTER THINKS HER LDS BOYFRIEND IS A CHRISTIAN: Even though in the first part of your conversation with your daughter, you attempted to address any concerns she had about her own faith in comparison to Mormonism, she may still claim that these differences are insignificant and that she believes her Mormon boyfriend is indeed a “Christian” because he “believes in Jesus Christ.” Are you prepared to explain why her LDS boyfriend’s “belief” in “Jesus Christ” is not the same as her belief?
Let her know that at this meeting, you desire to hear her side of the issue, not what her boyfriend thinks, but what she thinks.
If she agrees to this meeting, you are well on your way to being able to have a heart-to-heart discussion with her. ESTABLISH COMMON GROUND AND ADDRESS HER OBJECTIONS.
A good way to start your meeting with your daughter is to ask her what she sees in this young man that has captured her interest in him and his religion.
Thus, we recommend an approach that incorporates an attitude of mutual respect between parent and young adult, with the goal of stimulating and sharpening the young adult’s critical thinking and decision making skills that will help solicit a positive response in the teenage/young adult child.
This approach is outlined in the following steps discussed below: 1.