Christian dating emotional boundaries
I’m about to get rather personal, so please be prepared for teenage angst and cringe-worthy stories about awkward fumbling in dark corners (you have been warned).
I met my husband Tim when I was 16 at a friend’s fancy dress party.
This would imply we will enjoy everyone, something we don’t always have control over. Due to the one-flesh nature of marriage, boundary issues are most rampant in this sacred union and most important to be solved.
This is often followed by a few casual dates before the eventual mutual decision that yes, this person loves Jesus, I could see myself with them long-term and we’re going to make things more serious. After the hand-holding incident we were friends for a few years before sharing a few lust-driven kisses followed by one long, awkward summer during which we were NOT dating but would use every moment alone to… So when we eventually decided to make things officially official, we basically just continued along as we’d been doing before but with a little bit more of an emotional commitment and the change of our relationship statuses on Facebook. We eventually realised that our lack of physical boundaries were preventing us from connecting on a deeper emotional and spiritual level.
Clear teachings from God’s Word bring peace and benefits. Biblically, children are under the authority of their parents until they come of age and move out under God’s authority and into their own responsibilities.
Here are six brief boundary principles explored more fully in this helpful book. Both children who continue to depend on parents for help (financially or otherwise), and children who continue to feel obligated to please and obey their parents are injuring God’s natural boundaries.
God did not design that married couples become one conglomerated person, unable to function apart from our spouse.
He designed us to be healthy, whole, and fulfilled in Christ, and from that union, we love our spouse and find joy in a mutually beneficial and sacrificial relationship.