Dating someone from a different social class
Research suggests that partners who one another in physical attractiveness—two moderately attractive, highly attractive, or unattractive individuals—are more likely to stay together over the long term than couples who are less similar in attractiveness (Feingold, 1988).
Although we generally find particular good-looking individuals to be attractive, we also (correctly if not consciously) intuit that we will have a more successful relationship if our partner matches our own level of physical attractiveness (Montoya, 2008).
“The house was my first choice, not his, and I’m sure some part of me was like, ‘It’s my money,’” Jill says.
Jack adds, “There’s a 10 percent ping in my heart that she could afford all of this without me and I couldn’t afford any of it without her, but I pay half the mortgage.” She makes more money working via satellite from home than he makes working overnight in a warehouse.
My brothers and I thought this song was funny, so my father often sang it to us.
With the lyrics in mind—and the relevant research in hand—my colleagues and I examined this phenomenon ourselves (Fugère et al., 2015).
ther research suggests that mismatched couples may have shorter relationships due to increased jealousy on the part of the less attractive partner (Swami et al., 2012). While writing about our research, a reporter from asked us why women might choose to be involved in relationships with men who are not as good looking as they are.
“Our base level of comfort is so different,” Victoria says. “We have different ideas about everything from how to talk to a little boy who’s crying to whether to save money,” Victoria says. “Working on the visa, the importance of everything outside the goodness of our fantastical love became more glaring,” Victoria says. My kids don’t need new clothes, but I don’t want them to struggle, to have so much uncertainty.
More important, women who viewed themselves as being committed to their current relationship, and reported considering more appealing alternative partners.
They also engaged in more flirting with other men and thought more about breaking up with their current partner.
You might not have your assumptions challenged while you’re wearing pajamas. “Growing up, I saw marriage as stressed-out, sexually frustrated people worrying about bat mitzvahs,” says Victoria, 31, from a “comfortable” New Jersey suburb.
“Part of the attraction to Nacho was that it’d be impossible for us to be that.” Nacho, 25, started working in agave fields in his Mexican hometown at age 6.