People have done that to me many times, and I think that feelings aren't really right or wrong.. but would a partner doing this to you be a good reason to end the relationship? I've heard people talk about how important it is not to do this to people..
would you agree that it's incredibly important in a relationship or friendship?
It is a natural human characteristic to assume everyone perceives the world as we do despite the fact that our experiences and our temperaments are vastly different from person to person.
When we don't believe that the emotions another person is expressing are valid we may assume they are faking or exaggerating their emotions for manipulative purposes.
The study found that a history of emotion invalidation (i.e., a history of childhood psychological abuse and parental punishment, minimization, and distress in response to negative emotion) was significantly associated with emotion inhibition (i.e., ambivalence over emotional expression, thought suppression, and avoidant stress responses).
Understanding the impact of a lack of emotional validation has been essential for me in healing from the terrible symptoms of internalised self invalidation which led to addiction.
These symptoms were not even conscious for me until about 10 years ago after over 10 years of active abstinence from alcohol and all other mood altering drugs. This blog is an attempt to express some of what I have learned. Feeling as though no one could possibly ever understand you (This list is adapted with my own additions from the following source : What an agonisingly painful way to live. We can begin to learn about the effects of emotional invalidation.
Sometimes we're right and sometimes we're wrong. We tend to judge those with different values as wrong and pretend our own values are right to feel safer.
We usually don't announce we went to the store.
We announce something that happened when we went to the store that made us feel or think a certain way, which are covered in the previous paragraphs.
It frees us from the shame others would dump on us for suffering from the consequences of something we did not choose and most certainly do not deserve.
It gives us the power of understanding that enables maturing and self responsibility.