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And, you know, native speakers out in the world, they mix and match as they see fit. Right, because, like, I would have to look out and make sure that I didn’t use the word “pavement,” and you can say that very American-like…pavement…and then they would be like, “No, it’s ‘sidewalk.’ So, you’re wrong.” And it’s like, “Oh, you know what I mean, though!” I know that I got punished for that, and there were other things like “ten after six” or “ten past six”…I, you know, if you say something like “ten past six” in American voice it’s really wrong because you have to say “ten after six,” which is something I didn’t even know until I was corrected.If they suggest something that you don’t think will work for you, don’t be afraid to let them know.After you and your advocate come up with ideas for your situation, the advocate will review them with you and can connect you to a local resource, if you’d like.Please make sure you are in a safe space before you text. When you call, be prepared for the advocate to first ask if you are in a safe place to talk.Always delete the conversation after you finish to ensure that no one else can access your information. Once you are, the advocate will encourage you to explain your situation.And everything that you did, every word you used, you had to think, “Is this the proper American word or is it a British-ism?” Because it was…you were punished much more severely for using British-isms as an American speaker than if you were a British speaker using American words. Lori: Yet there’s this kind of weird…at least in some classroom contexts…there’s this weird elitism when it comes to British English and American English, and like there’s these weird synthetic rules about what you’re allowed to say and what’s acceptable and what isn’t.
Yvette: The thing of course is when you…now you work, and it actually…you make money doing things and people expect a certain standard of you, and you try to hold to that standard but often that standard is in your own head and it’s not even what they’re expecting you to do. everything had to be perfect, everything had to be done properly. Yvette: And I felt like I was going to get punished if I didn’t, so that — not to say anything bad about my parents, but, because I don’t think they ever held me to that standard; they always said, “Do your best and that’s good enough.” But for me it had to be perfect, and then it’s maybe “okay.” Lori: Yeah.You will never be asked for your name or other contact information, but an advocate may ask for your age and city to find local resources for you.Chat with a peer advocate by clicking on the “Chat Online Now” button at the top of the page. If you can’t or don’t want to talk to an advocate on the phone, we offer the same support via our live chat service on Peer advocates can connect you to resources in your area, provide you with helpful websites, help you create a plan to stay safe or just listen to your concerns.All conversations with peer advocates via phone, chat or text are free and confidential.